Terrible Twos, Threenagers, Fearsome Fours and Fives...when does it end?
The gentle parenting movement is awesome. As more is discovered about the brain and how it develops during childhood, this shift towards attachment-based, nurturing methods to meet kids where they are and form secure attachments sets the foundation for emotional and relational health throughout their lifespan.
However, one thing we do not like about the movement is that none of the experts with influence whether they may be therapists, psychologists, neuroscientists, etc. that promote these methods are talking about some of the biggest factors that affect your child’s behavior: airway development and sleep quality. When the focus is only on strategies for parents, it can normalize extreme emotions that come from getting a lack of quality sleep.
Don’t get us wrong, we are not by any means suggesting kids are going to have zero tantrums, meltdowns, or bad days. We know this is developmentally normal; however, how do we know when it crosses from developmentally appropriate to a cause for concern?
AIRWAY AND SLEEP MANAGEMENT TO PROMOTE PROPER BRAIN DEVELOPMENT
Routine checkups at your local airway dentist are one way to ensure your child’s craniofacial and airway development are on (and staying on) the appropriate trajectory.
Airway health and development have a direct impact on sleep quality. We know that over 90% of kids today are suffering from jaw growth deficiencies so it would not be a big leap to assume that many are not getting quality sleep. Even the American Academy of Pediatrics estimates that sleep problems affect 25% to 50% of children and 40 percent of adolescents.
While some might think it's cute, snoring is a sign of a potential airway issue and should be reported to your airway dentist or pediatrician. Snoring can cause structural changes in a child's brain, which can cause a range of behavioral and health issues. According to a study by the University of Maryland School of Medicine, these changes can include a lack of focus, hyperactivity, ADHD, learning difficulties, and a lower IQ of up to 10 points.
A child dealing with a sleep deficiency will typically display one or more of the following symptoms:
Moodiness and irritability
Temper tantrums in younger children or unreasonable outbursts in older children
The tendency to emotionally 'explode' at the slightest provocation
Over-activity and hyperactive behavior
Daytime naps are required daily
Grogginess when they wake up in the morning
Reluctance to get out of bed in the morning
Sleepwalking and sleeptalking
Higher levels of anxiety or stress
Chronically waking up with a headache and/or dry mouth
Mouth breathing throughout the day
HOW TO ACHIEVE PROPER SLEEP QUALITY IN CHILDREN
Let’s get curious about our children’s sleep quality! Many parents believe that their children are getting a good quantity but have never assessed the quality of their child's sleep.
As Dr. David McIntosh suggested in episodes 13 and 14 of the Airway First podcast, parents need to take some time to observe their child's sleep on various occasions to obtain a good assessment of the quality they are getting. A good strategy is to check in on them at different times over several days for 10-15 minutes each time.
What we want to see when you observe your child sleeping:
Lips sealed
The tongue suctioned to the palate (if you are brave enough to slightly open the mouth, you can check for this important piece)
A still and peaceful child
Quiet, nasal breathing
We don’t want to see when you observe your child sleeping:
Lips apart
The tongue at the bottom of the mouth
Tossing and turning, thrashing, or sheets twisted up
Any audible breathing
AIRWAY AND SLEEP: THE FOUNDATION FOR LIFELONG HEALTH
Ensuring your child's sleep consistently is both ample quantity and good quality will be a foundation for their lifelong health!
For sleep to be truly restorative and support a child's brain and body the way they need, they must be able to adequately go through all the sleep stages, including deep and REM sleep. When mouth breathing and snoring are present, your child can’t get the quality of sleep that their brain development and foundational health depend on.
Let us know – who are your favorite gentle parenting experts with influence? Help us raise awareness around the global epidemic of children’s airway issues!
SPOTLIGHT BOOK RESOURCE FOR PARENTS
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